Seriosuly, how do women have more than one child? I have only had one and am barely open to the idea of having another. I see couples with three, four, sometimes five kids and,I just do not understand how or why. I commend any woman who can go through labor and delivery more than two times, my own mother included.
My boyfriend and I are obviously not ready to have another baby given that our daughter is barely out of the newborn stage, but we have been discussing future plans/ideas. We have gone back and forth on the thought of maybe having one more baby a few years from now; I, of course, get the final say because I would be the one carrying the baby. Again, I don’t understand how some women can go through childbirth several times when I am seriously heavily debating a second time. The fact that I ended up needing a c-section after fourteen hours of labor and about ten minutes of pushing could be why it has become such a hard choice for me.
My mother had three children all by cesearion, so I don’t understand why I am having such a hard time deciding on whether or not I want at least one more. It is all just conversation for now, but I know I will have to make up my mind sometime. That or I could just roll the dice and see if I ever get pregnant again. I should point out that I am a big believer in if something is meant to be, it will happen. I guess the reason some women decide to have more than one is because after a few weeks, when your body has healed a bit, you do mildly forget how painful the experience of childbirth was.
I have heard so many people say that you never forget the pain of labor, but for me that isn’t true. Honestly, labor was terrible, it was, but I don’t really remember much of it now. The hardest part for me was the first two weeks of recovery. I am not one to ask for help and being practically helpless for more than a day hurt my pride. If I knew that recovery got easier the more you did it, then maybe it would make the debate a little eadier; unfortunately, that is not the case.
How do women with small families or a small social group manage to have more than one child while recovering from a c-section? I think that is my greatest concern, the whole taking care of two children when I can barely take care of myself. Even if it is only temporary, I’m not sure I could do it again. I really don’t understand why some people have more than a few kids, but I commend any woman who can go through childbirth multiple times.
Please leave me any feedback you have. Maybe some advise that can help me decide if I ever want another baby. Anything is helpful.